It almost sounds cliche: your girlfriend needs space. It sounds like something you see on a bad romantic comedy. But now you’re faced with it, and it’s tricky. Do you give her space? What happens if you don’t? If you do give her space does that mean that she’ll break up with you? Does she really want to break up with you anyway but this is her way of letting you down easy?
If your girlfriend said she needs space or needs a break, your first instinct might have been to get mad. Maybe the two of you were already in a fight when she told you. Or maybe she blindsided you out of nowhere and now you don’t know what to do. But whatever your situation, the number one thing you need to consider is giving her what she wants. It won’t hurt to give her a few days, or even a week or two, so that she can sort out her feelings.
But wait, if you give her space does it mean she’s going to break up with you? Not necessarily. Taking a break from each other isn’t always a bad thing. It can actually give both of you time to think and see what life is like without each other. It can make your relationship stronger once you do get back together. Getting some distance from your problems can help you see solutions that you weren’t seeing before because you were too wrapped up in arguing and fighting.
It can actually push your girlfriend further away if you don’t give her the space she’s asking for. Smothering her in the hopes that she’ll change her mind will make her want to break up with you so that she can be by herself. Not giving her space can backfire because it will activate a power struggle. If you don’t listen to her, she’ll make you listen to her by breaking up.
What happens if you give your girlfriend space and she doesn’t call you? The best thing to do is to give her at least a few days with absolutely no contact. Usually after a couple of days she will call you herself. But if she doesn’t, then it’s okay to send her a short message and tell her that you’re thinking of her. Resist the urge to pressure her. Just keep it short and sweet and then wait it out again.